Why Baby Loss Matters

02 February 2021
Volume 29 · Issue 2


A review of the book 'Why Baby Loss Matters' by Kay King.

No matter the circumstances, baby loss is devastating. It is heart-wrenching and difficult to talk about with others. But Kay King, a doula and grief recovery method specialist, took a very personal and emotional experience, and embraced it. She sympathised with her readers and made them feel seen and heard. King made her book feel like a comforting hug for those hurting.

The book opens with a picturesque seen: one of sorrow and grief but brought forth with a sense of comfort. King had lit 212 candles on her desk and named each one for a baby that had passed. She wanted each parent to feel seen, be heard, be comforted and told that they are not alone. She wanted each person to know that she is with them and that she understands.

There is one quote within the book that stuck with me; it made me pause and truly reflect on baby loss and parents that are experiencing it: ‘Baby loss is unquantifiable and intimate, it is misunderstood and often hidden, it is lonely and can be desperately sad. Every individual experience of it matters.’ This really resonated with me because it showed how difficult baby loss is and how traumatic the experience is for parents.

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